It is difficult for spouses to decide that their marriage has come to an end and an even more harrowing experience to endure, regardless of how amicable it might be. If there are children involved, this can heighten the emotional difficulties. You might be wondering if your kids will be okay, or if they need help, and while there is no right or wrong answer, seeking therapy for your children can be an immense help to them during this uncertain time.
Children Do Not Always Show Distress
Some children will show clear signs of emotional distress, but others might not be so obvious. Indirect emotional stress might be something as subtle as irritability or simply not wanting to talk about anything relating to the matter of divorce. It is important to understand that, even when your children are not acting out, yelling, or behaving abnormally aggressive, does not mean they are coping well.
Not all children react to divorce in such indirect ways. Some are particularly affected by it and take their parents for an emotional roller coaster ride as they attempt to deal with this unforeseen news. However your child reacts to the news that you and your spouse will no longer be together, it is important to recognize some of the most common clues that indicate therapy is necessary.
What to Look For
- Your child’s symptoms persist for several weeks
- Your child’s symptoms prevent him or her from functioning normally
- Your child’s symptoms are disruptive and interfere with the normal functioning of the family
- You often feel angry, exhausted, or disappointed with your child
- Other trusted family members or close friends have expressed their concern
- While it is unusual, some children might ask to see a therapist
More Severe Signs That Indicate Your Child’s Need for Therapy
- Loss of appetite
- Difficulty sleeping
- Excessive and consistent melancholy
- Physical complaints with no distinguishable cause, such as headaches
- Loss of interest in friendships or trouble getting along with others
- Decline in academic performance
- Trouble concentrating
- Decreased self-esteem
- Excessive weight loss or weight gain
- Constant rude behavior
- Excessive lying
- Risky behavior
This list might sound terrifying, but intervention through therapy is one of the most helpful things you can do for your children, even if they are not exhibiting these alarming signs. Therapy is not solely for those at the extreme end of the spectrum; it can help anyone who is experiencing a difficult and unexpected set of circumstances. Kids can be resilient and bounce back, but taking a risk with this pivotal turning point in their lives is unnecessary.
Colorado Divorce Lawyers
Ending a marriage is never easy, but with the right legal representation at your side, the process can go more smoothly, with as little stress as possible. At Feldmann Nagel Margulis, our Colorado divorce lawyers are prepared to handle any and all matters you might encounter during your divorce, providing personal attention and step-by-step guidance and compassionate sound legal advice. Our Colorado legal team will thoroughly review your specific situation and needs, inform you of the legal options and resources available to you, and help determine the best course of action for you to pursue.
We are skilled at addressing a wide range of divorce matters, including property division, alimony, child custody and support, and mediation.
Contact us today at (888) 458-0991 to get started and schedule a consultation with a skilled member of our legal team.