By James S. Margulis, Esq.
There are a number of warning signs that your spouse is either having an
affair or considering divorce and it may be time to talk with an attorney
regarding a potential divorce. Clues that you spouse is having an affair
are relatively notorious due to movies and television shows. Typically
you see your significant other being cagey about their phone or computer,
unusual charges or your bank accounts or credit cards, or your spouse
may be travelling for work, etc.
However, clues that your spouse is considering divorce or has already spoken
with a divorce attorney are not as dramatized in media or well-known.
Typically, there are two main areas of controversy during a divorce proceeding
which may begin well before the filing of a Petition for Divorce –
no surprise, these areas include money and children.
Financial clues that your spouse is considering a divorce can vary, but
typically you will see increased spending, an interest in the family finances,
or hiding the family finances. Occasionally, you will start to notice
an increase in cash withdraws from bank or savings accounts - this may
be a sign that your spouse is stashing money in order to save up for a
divorce. It may also be telling if you find your spouse has a new account
at a different bank. Also you may notice that your spouse is unwilling
to make large financial commitments on a new home, vacation, or car. Your
spouse may also become more invested in the family finances, including
asking questions about bills when they haven't before or becoming
unwilling to share financial information or hindering your access by changing
Another area where you may notice warning signs or a pending divorce is
with your children. For instance, your spouse seems to be more engaged
with the children and their activities - such as attending school events,
taking them to doctor's appointments, or taking on new duties in the
home, such as cooking dinner or getting the children to bed. Another more
obvious sign is if your spouse requests one-on-one time with your child
without you - this could evidence that your spouse is preparing for a
divorce action or custody battle.
While many of these warning signs may also evidence a spouse putting in
more effort to a failing relationship, it may also evidence that your
spouse has contacted an attorney and is preparing for the filing of a
divorce action. If you are concerned that your spouse may be speaking
with an attorney or preparing to file divorce, you should contact an attorney
immediately to protect yourself and your children.
Please contact the Domestic Team at Feldmann & Nagel, LLC for all of
your divorce and family law needs.